Impressing a Chinese girl requires a different strategy as opposed to western girls. Chinese women are much less direct and sensitive to certain things. In fact, talking about the same things or using the same language you use with western women might even set you back completely and totally ruin your chance with the lady. Here are some tips on what, or what not, to talk about and how to talk to a Chinese lady.
At the beginning stages, you can talk about your own personalities and interests, like sports and travel. Then you can focus on the following topics:
Career
When talking about your career, you may have a lot to say, such as what kind of job you’re doing and the development prospect. A good job will not only make you confident, but also make her appreciate you. Besides, it is a guarantee of a good life in the future for her. Of course, you shouldn’t just talk about yourself. You should also ask her about her career etc.
Friends
If you have lots of good friends, she will think that you are respected in many ways, and you must be a kind and tender person. She will know more about you and trust you more, because Chinese girls admire these kinds of people as always. When you have talked about your friends, ask her about hers. By doing this, apart from showing that you’re interested in her, you can also find out more about her personality.
Family
This is an important topic. Your personality and achievements are closely related to your family environment. A good family environment will make you more elegant, which will be observed from your speech and behaviour. More to the point, if you have good relations with your family members, you’re bound to get along well with her family. Family is one of the most important things to a Chinese girl. bid ask As before, you should also ask her about her family.
Show your interest in China
Even if you don’t know much about Chinese culture, you should definitely try to learn a few things to help you succeed in winning her heart. If you want to get a smile from a Chinese lady, tell her you love her country. This works 100% of the time.
Focus on her personality
Compliments about a Chinese girl’s personality are usually more powerful than compliments about her appearance in general. When you find out what she does for a living and what education level she has, go on to letting her know how smart you think she is and if she does something silly, then, don’t forget to let her know how cute she is. Chinese girls seem to have a cute fetish and they do everything to act and look cute.
Make specific compliments
Don’t just say that she looks beautiful, but rather look for something specific and compliment that. You could say that she looks very good in a particular dress or that her hair color suits her very well. This will give her the impression that you don’t say these compliments to every girl and that indeed there is truth in what you say.
Avoid talking about past relationships
When she asks how many girlfriends you have had, lie about the total number. Usually, Chinese women don’t look for a date, they look for a husband. Even what might seem like a small insignificant date to you, will be an opportunity for her to observe you and decide if you are a good potential long term partner. If you are also looking for marriage, then telling her you want a family and would love to have a couple of cute mixed babies one day, will melt her heart. At this point, she should be yours even though she might remain careful.
To sum up, when talking to Chinese ladies, you shouldn’t talk about things which are too private to begin with e.g. past relationships. Although you should be as honest as possible, sometimes telling a white lie is better than telling the truth – if it doesn’t hurt her and makes her happy, why not? Also, remember to show some interest in the lady as well as talking about yourself. If you don’t ask her questions and just talk about yourself, she may think you’re not interested in her.
